Last year my best friend introduced me to a life I never knew existed previously. A life full of surplus, excitement and profound knowledge. Now where on earth has all this wealth of information come from, you might ask? No where other then the Goodwill. Or according to my IPhone's crafty auto-correct....The Hoodwill. Pretentious I am not, expressive I most certainly am. Upon donating a large extent of my wardrobe in order to "start fresh" I was left in a space to recreate what I wanted in my life. Having a love for my own style and flair which has taken me years to cultivate I was far from embracing the latest trends in the mainstream popular stores. Thanks to R.B not only did I get to spend girl time with my friend but I also got turned onto a world vastly different then that which I was living. So you may be asking, how does this apply to Spiritualism? Each book ever written on Spiritualism is written with life principles in mind. To simply read said principles does nothing. Its the course of applying them where the magic occurs.
Principle One...Surplus.
I have come to realize that the world is made up of an endless supply of surplus. There is never a need that can not be filled or a willing participnat not looking to fill a need. With this in mind there is NEVER a reason to think that one will not get what one needs. Many times I hear clients comment on how they will die if their job ends, if there relationship fails, if the home they want doesn't come through, if the coveted material tangible is not within their possession. I can assure time and time again that....death will not occur due to some exterior belief. However, believing that happiness is based entirely on one said person, event or item is a very limited way of thinking. Hasn't enough words of wisdom been produced for society to know that as one door closes another one opens.
Well the same thing applies to shopping. Just because the person before you bought the most stellar pair of Louis Vuitton heels in your precise size is not to say that a more spectacular pair will not be found later on. Ones meant just for you and your deformed middle toe. There is always a better relationship to replace the one which you had. A home with a layout better fitted to your current lifestyle. A vehicle at a cheaper price, with more options than the one that recently "Got Away". Remember it all comes down to belief. To believe there is always more will bring more. To believe there is lack will produce just that. It's the Law of Effect. So be conscious the next time you find yourself choosing to be disappointed.
Principle Two...The writing is ALWAYS on the wall.
Take things for face value first. If it has a smudge, stain, tear, etc acknowledge it and then decide.
Is it worth dealing with even though the image is not perfect? How much work will it take to get it just so? I found a gorgeous dress that was in a chiffon silk with overlayed black lace. Very classic late 30's elegance. It was also sizes too large for me. Although I loved it and envisioned myself prancing around in it, I needed to be honest first. The alterations would cost a fortune and what I loved about the dress may not be the same things that I would love after it was altered. I choose to let it go and surprisingly enough I found one similar months later in the correct size.
These same principles apply to life when associating with others. People will ALWAYS show you who they are if you care to listen. Its not people persay who lie but rather our own individual egos that do. Pay attention! To what is said, not said and gestured your way. You can save yourself time, money and emotions when evaluating the circumstances in an open, honesty way. In the end if a conscious choice is made to take on a project by all means remember to put your best foot forward.
Principle Three....HONESTY
Being honesty starts with YOU. One needs to know themselves before they can begin to know another.
This applies to shopping as well. Each individual person has their own individual style. A way of expressing their inner being. What will look truly stunning on one person does not always look the same on another. Know this and be true to it. The more you do so the more that truth spills out into all areas of your life, not just clothes. I know that I am a person for vintage, elegance, feminine and material. If it sparkles, gleams, sways and evokes some sort of passion within me I swoon. I also have to LOVE it in order to buy it. I have also learned that borrowing upon someone elses style tends to wind up with me donating it back.
Be true to you and you will always be true. Look to the world to lend inspiration to you but be realistic in your wants, dreams, hopes, desires and how you curate them into your space. Living a life of integrity is your own sole choice and only you know what a life like that looks like. Get clear, precise and be mindful when executing all which does not define you or your lifestyle. In the beginning it might take a little elbow grease on your part but soon you will be coasting with a fresher more authentic vision for yourself. Happy Sailing!!
Principle Four...Traits YOU define to live by
What is it that you are seeking? What traits do you choose to live by? To apply to your life?
When I started out shopping I knew that I was looking for pieces that were timeless, feminine, tailored and organic. Organic to me is silk. I love the way it fits, contours and lays against my skin. Nothing else suffice for me. I know what I want and I believe that I am worthy of my wants. Even if they take years to transpire. R.B however has been very clear that she wants comfortable. Above all else if a garment isn't comfortable to wear or needs an assembly to put on then its gone. We have paired up to hold each other to these defined truths when we find ourselves straying.
These traits have also come to play in other areas as well. My feelings are what I borrow from many a times to navigate with clients, friendships and over all decisions regarding life. Rather it be intuition that does the leading or enough experiences lived to see the red flags i'm unsure. I am sure that if it doesn't feel right then 95% of the time it is not. That gut feeling has saved myself time and time again from countless detriments and I listen to it when a garment fits too tightly around it as well. I personally am unwilling to suffer for fashion or for anything that places my "gut" at a dis-ease.
Principle Five...When in DOUBT sit back and RELAX
When I first started shopping the Hoodwill I found things that I was unsure of but would buy anyways. Only to get them home, decide that I really did not like them and end up donating them back. After more then a few times of doing this I started listening to my inner voice. If I found myself pausing on a said item then I would simply walk away from it. I made a new agreement with myself that I HAD to LOVE it in order for it to find a home with me. Otherwise it was just simply stuff. Filler in my life which later translated into clutter.
We are all aware of clutter. Clutter of possessions, leads to clutter of the mind, which later can transmute into clutter of emotions. I have received the clean out clutter card from my counseling deck enough times to know that it is frivolous to hold on to stuff just for the sake of. Now take old ways of thinking and you are left with a outdated, outlived, outlook on life. Just like closets...Each of us need a Life Review every now and then. A quick or in depth glance over to see if all that is kept inside is truly ours. Now and then you may find a shirt given as a gift by a friend that you have never worn, or a belief that was never yours to begin with. Toss it, release from it, work through it and then move on. There are things out there that will fit your life better I guarantee it.
~M
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